Communication

This exercise is to help discuss and resolve one resolvable issue. Instructions Take 5 minutes to become familiar with the checklist. Then use the checklist in your discussion. Announce to your partner that this is a repair attempt before making it. You can refer to…

The interview has four parts: Goals Symbols Roles Rituals It involves the exploration of common ground between the partners as well as differences between them. Goals What are your life goals and your meanings? What are your hopes and aspirations, as individuals and together, for…

Every relationship has disagreements. It’s how we handle those disagreements that counts. A bad argument can turn even a little problem into a big one, making it emotionally charged and painful. This is where fair fighting rules come in. Fair fighting rules don’t tell us…

This is a decision-making exercise that provides an opportunity for partners to work on accepting influence and to find out how they work together as a team. The purpose of this exercise is for the partners to evaluate their ability to include their partner(s), to…

Performed individually. Say the following:  I would like to ask you some questions about how you feel about your feelings. Take surprise as an example. Now, some people don’t ever like being surprised. On the other hand, some people love to be surprised and love…

The Relapse Questionnaire can help couples assess and prevent relapse and understand how to seek additional intervention if relapse occurs. Instructions Let’s check to see if you feel that any gains you made in treatment have relapsed or are in the process of relapsing. Please…