Posted: March 10, 2026
Often we want to do better if we know how to do better. These are some essential “formulas” for conversations. How to start a conversation when everyone is fairly calm and one is distressed: Gentle Startup How to validate, not necessarily agree with, someone: Validating Your Partner’s…
Posted: October 15, 2024
Power plays a crucial role in shaping our thoughts, desires, and behaviors, even in the context of romantic relationships. When one partner feels they hold more (or less) power than the other, it can have a profound impact on how they see themselves, their relationship,…
Posted: September 3, 2024
When a third person joins an existing pair, the dynamics of communication, influence, and closeness within the original pair typically shift. This can lead to feelings of invasion, neglect, anger, or resentment, especially if these changes are not addressed properly. Understanding how to manage these…
Posted: March 29, 2023
This exercise is designed for you to write about some aspects of your own life and your own personality that will help both you and your partner understand you better. In your own notebook, answer the following questions as candidly as you can. Instructions What…
Posted: March 29, 2023
These exercises are a guide for processing and evaluating what happened when one of you felt that the friendship was not working well, when one of you felt alienated or lonely, while the other may have felt a great need for autonomy, independence, or being…
Posted: March 29, 2023
Here are 5 important situations in which partners can easily make adjustments to their weekly schedule and earn points in their emotional bank account. Instructions Have “Events of the Day” discussions. Particularly those designed primarily to do errands, to exchange information about important / exciting…