Gottman Compromise
Posted: March 10, 2026
Very briefly, this are the tools used to reach compromise. Some benefits of the tools is along the way feelings and perspectives can be validated while allowing each person to feel their voice is considered in the compromise.
Gottman says 70% of gridlocked issues between any two people can not be solved, therefore what matters is how we treat each other and feel in compromise. Compromises don’t work as contracts, they are much more like the scientific process which, hopefully, is always getting a little more accurate, a little better.
It can always be time for a Time Out.
Gottman’s Compromise:
- Gentle Startup
- Dreams within Conflict
- Art of Compromise (aka 2 Oval Exercise)
- The Agreement Testing Meditation can let you know whether a compromise is “good” for you.