Lauren “Ren” Reed
Lauren “Ren” Reed specializes with kink, consensual non-monogamy, and religious sexual shame. She is dual licensed as a couple and family therapist and a licensed professional counselor. Ren works from a narrative and collaborative theory. This means that she will work together with you to find solutions and explore yourself and that Ren will help you see your life as a story, and help you edit and change how the rest of the book turns out. This will happen through conversation as you discover connections and patterns in your life.
As you explore your sexual self with Ren, topics like sexual communication, sexual and gender orientation, and sexual performance anxiety may surface. Ren is prepared and educated on these topics and more. She believes that all forms of consensual sex and ethical non-monogamy should be normalized across the spectrum.
For kinksters: Ren has studied kink and BDSM for over a decade and has worked with a wide variety of interests. Working from a systemic perspective, Ren comes from a place of acceptance. Whether you’re in a kinky dynamic and are looking for a couples therapist who understands your lifestyle, or you’re brand new to kink and want education and assistance, Ren is qualified to work with you. She is ready to work with your kink and help you grow.
For consensual non-monogamists: Ren has been openly polyamorous for several years and continues to read and study what leading research has to say. If you’re just opening your relationship for the first time, Ren can work with you to create healthy boundaries and a supportive system. For long-term open couples, Ren can assist with connection, communication, and sex. You deserve a therapist who is familiar with your lifestyle and relationship status.
For religious sexual shame: Ren understands that the road to acceptance is a long one. Religion often says “no” to sexual expression and sex-positivity. Working through the thoughts in your head that tell you “no” and reducing shame can allow you to find a new sexual self, one that is well-adjusted and at peace with your history and your present. Ren has compassion and concern for those who are coping with religious shame, religious abuse, and people struggling with their sex lives in relation to their religion. Regardless of what religion, the themes of shame and guilt can run deep. If your sexual self and your religion don’t align, then Ren may be able to help.