Communication

Building Rituals of Re/Connection A Ritual of Connection needs to be thought out and planned between partners.  An example of a Ritual of Connection is greeting each other at the end of the day. Will there be a hug? A kiss? Questions like, “What were…

Injury and Healing   This exercise is designed for you to write about some aspects of your own life and your own personality that will help you and your partner understand you better. In your own notebook, answer the following questions as candidly as you…

Love Map Exercise   Establish a baseline in your knowledge of one another, and each partner begins to become very well-known to the other. Cognitive room begins to be allocated for each partner. Research shows that a very powerful predictor of relationship stability is whether…

Ask Open-Ended Questions   The next step in knowing your partner is to ask questions that deepen your understanding of them.   “Did you call the plumber today?” is not a question that tells you much about your partner’s internal world.   Try asking, “If…

State of the Union Date   The State of the Union is a time to reflect on the relationship and share both things that are working well and things that need to be addressed. What I see with the couples I work with is that…

How to Determine Compatibility with Someone New When you’re looking for a new friend, it’s crucial to be able to determine compatibility. The same goes for friends with benefits and new long-term partners when you’re part of the non-monogamous community. You don’t want to spend…