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Here are a few of the common mistakes made by new people in the kink community. I see these regularly. They are often taken as red flags and may hurt your reputation before you even understand why they are not okay in this community. These…

The year of the Rabbit is soon to be gone, much like the excitement many Westerners have for those Gregorian New Year’s Resolutions. If your resolutions required a vast network of monetary and internal resources  you’ve never been able to focus on your goals before,…

Straight up, no cap, Gratitude is a super power! Praise kinksters know what I mean (and you’re doing so good today!) Every style of therapy (aka modality) I’ve studied or come across always talk about gratitude. Nearly every guru, coach, therapist, and award winner won’t…

Why You Shouldn’t Go Alone: Importance of Personal Community When it comes to non-monogamy, one of the most common things I hear people say is that they feel alone. They may have a few close friends who are also non-monogamous, but for the most part,…

Why It’s Normal (and Even Healthy) to Feel Jealous We’ve all been there before – that nagging feeling in the pit of our stomach when we can’t help but feel a little bit jealous. Maybe your partner has been talking to someone else online, and…

Defining and Managing New Relationship Energy (NRE) Butterflies in your stomach and your head in the clouds – two ways that brand new relationships make us feel. We’re feeling great about ourselves, falling for someone amazing, and then BAM. We realize that we’re in a…