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Injury and Healing   This exercise is designed for you to write about some aspects of your own life and your own personality that will help you and your partner understand you better. In your own notebook, answer the following questions as candidly as you…

Build a Map of your Partner’s Everyday Life   This will help you understand each other’s external and internal worlds to build more accurate Love Maps.    Instructions Ask questions and fill in the list below for your partner:   Who are the Cast of…

Love Map Exercise   Establish a baseline in your knowledge of one another, and each partner begins to become very well-known to the other. Cognitive room begins to be allocated for each partner. Research shows that a very powerful predictor of relationship stability is whether…

Ask Open-Ended Questions   The next step in knowing your partner is to ask questions that deepen your understanding of them.   “Did you call the plumber today?” is not a question that tells you much about your partner’s internal world.   Try asking, “If…

Behavior Exchange   This exercise will help partners deepen their understanding of what each would like from the other in order to turn towards each other more specifically and build their emotional bank account.   Instructions   Each partner will grab a notepad and something…

State of the Union Date   The State of the Union is a time to reflect on the relationship and share both things that are working well and things that need to be addressed. What I see with the couples I work with is that…