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The Emotional Communication Game   This game is to be done in the spirit of fun and provides the partners with an opportunity to learn how to better read each other’s communications.   Instructions In this game, partners take turns as sender and receiver. The…

An Exercise in Thanksgiving   Gratitude is a super character strength associated with having a life worth living, building other character strengths, and the best predictor of well being – it’s also fundamental to lasting relationships.    Instructions   For one week, try to be…

 7 Week Guide for Creating Fondness and Admiration   The following checklist contains items that are relationship enhancing thoughts that can replace the distress maintaining thoughts that lead to the distance and isolation cascade. Take this checklist to work with you and do the tasks…

  Magic Five and One-half Hours a Week   Research suggests, at a minimum, partners adjust their schedules for 5.5 hours a week. Relationships that continue to make relationship gains seem to be doing a number of things to restructure their week. These tips have…

Building Rituals of Re/Connection A Ritual of Connection needs to be thought out and planned between partners.  An example of a Ritual of Connection is greeting each other at the end of the day. Will there be a hug? A kiss? Questions like, “What were…

Cascade of Events for Breaking Agreements   82% of affairs among monogamous partnerships are not seated in lust, rather they are from hurt or fear. Potential partners are already acquaintances, and are characterized by    Secrecy Emotional intimacy Sexual chemistry.    For the partner who…