Attachment, or the attachment bond, is the emotional connection you formed as an infant with your primary caregiver. According to attachment theory, the quality of the bonding you experienced during this first relationship often determines how and how well you relate to other people and respond to intimacy throughout life.
- Try out this Attachment Style Quiz
- The 4 Attachment Styles are descriptive (meaning they can be changed) and aren’t absolute as much as they are on a type of 2-axis spectrum:
- Below is a fair bit about the attachment styles, and how we try to approach them.
|Attachment Style||Secure||Anxious – Preoccupied||Avoidant – Dismissive||Fearful – Disorganized (Anxious-Avoidant)|
|Description||Adults with a secure attachment style usually have positive views of themselves and of others. They are comfortable with intimate relationships, are able to trust their partner, and are not afraid of closeness.||Those with an anxious preoccupied attachment style usually have low self esteem and a more positive view of others. They seek out intimacy and security from others, especially romantic partners. However, they can often become overly dependent on relationships which can lead to overwhelming panic and worry about their partners behaviors and intentions.||People with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style tend to have a positive self view and a more negative view of others. Stemming from avoidant childhood attachment, they value their independence highly and may get nervous when someone gets too close. It is important for them to feel self-sufficient and often attempt to avoid attachment altogether.||A fearful-avoidant attachment style usually stems from either avoidant attachment or disorganized attachment as a child. Adults with a fearful-avoidant attachment style want intimate relationships but are uncomfortable with closeness and find it difficult to trust or depend on others. They are fearful of getting hurt if they get close to other people so choose to avoid intimate relationships instead.|
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