Posted: July 13, 2021
There you are, sliding into a disaster like a car desperately trying to stop in the rain. The conversation is veering sharply into oncoming conflict and you’re trying to brace for impact. Just like in moments when your body believes you’re about to get into…
Posted: June 22, 2021
Hey fellow human who also probably has a small subset of humans they love having in their lives… don’t you also hate them sometimes? What’s that about? A favorite couple of mine started their journey of love while both in high school, because it would…
Posted: June 1, 2021
Very likely you are already some kind of non-monogamous, especially if you found yourself here. There are many flavors to choose from with varying degrees of types of intimacy. Serial Monogamy Strictly speaking, monogamy is having only one romantic / sexual partner… ever. Think back…
Posted: May 25, 2021
In this post we talked briefly about not necessarily breaking up, but changing how a relationship looks. The relationship escalator is the societal belief that romantic relationships must continually be working towards new milestones of commitment or they are failing. Some of us prefer stairs…
Posted: May 10, 2021
A lot of the work I do as a therapist deals with one’s self identity and isolation. For some of us, even in a room crowded enough to give a golden retriever social anxiety we feel lonely, out of place. Some of us are in…
Posted: May 3, 2021
Tropes are tropes and clichés are clichés for a reason. When I facilitated poly discussion groups and moderated poly communities I would joke that the answer that will get everybody out of here in 15 minutes is, “have you tried clear, open, honest communication?”. Obviously…