The Four Most Common “Big Discussions” in Relationships

Generally, four major discussions are found in relationships. These are certainly not the only ones, they are the ones I spend the most time helping people learn, hone, or practice. Always be willing to take a time out.

There’s a problem between us

1. Gentle Start Up
2. Dreams within Conflict
3. Art of Compromise  (2 Oval Exercise)

There’s a problem outside of us

1. Gentle Start Up
2. Stress Reducing Conversation
3. 3 Skills of Intimate Conversations

Things are going well

1. Gentle Start Up
2. Active Constructive Responses
3. 3 Skills of Intimate Conversations

There’s something to repair in our relationship

1. Gentle Start Up
2. Aftermath of a Regrettable Incident (A discussion became a fight)
3. Atone, Attune, Attach (Somebody feels hurt or betrayed)

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