Building New Habits
This is the super life hack that is the base of all other changes, how to make new habits.
- Chunk down your new habit into the smallest goal possible. You won’t eat the whole elephant today, start with small bites, then when bundled together are large changes.
- Set a trigger or cue to do the new thing. An alarm, post it note, etc.
- Do the new thing.
- Give yourself a positive emotional reward. You’re Pavloving yourself, the stronger the reward, and the quicker it is given, the stronger the habit. This can be a brief internal imaging of your “new self”, fist bump, self high five, positive affirmations, etc.
A lot of self help resources say it takes “X days” to build a habit. How long it takes to build a habit depends on a number of factors, one of the biggest is how powerful and how quickly you give yourself a dopamine hit by giving yourself a positive emotional reward. Strengthening grit is a way to continue habits after motivation starts to wane.
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