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Supporting Your Partner Through Trauma

Nobody makes it through life without some bumps, unfortunately for some the scars run deep, and the past isn’t just the past. It can be hard to watch the ones we love go through these hard times, can be difficult to manage ourselves, and can be challenging to even know where to begin. Here are some suggestions for those that live with those who have survived trauma.


  • Knowing is half the battle.
  • Keep communication open
  • Don’t take it personally, practice selfcare.
  • Don’t overcompensate. Some relationships with trauma fall into a pattern of care giver and care receiver, parent and child, guardian and “person who can’t look after themselves”. This can be comfortable or it can activate the drama triangle.
  • Remember the Three C’s.
    • You didn’t create this
    • You can’t control this
    • You can’t cure this

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