Resilience

Resilience is the ability to bounce back and grow from negative emotional experiences and by flexible adaptation to the changing demands of stressful experiences

Variables that contribute to resilience

• Biology
• Self awareness
  • Tracking your emotions, thoughts, reactions
  • Awareness of body
  • Knowing your strengths, correcting for weaknesses
• Self regulation
  • Changing thoughts, emotions, and reactions
  • Changing physical responses (time outs)
  • Goal setting
• Mental agility, look at things from multiple perspectives
  • Perspective taking
  • Problem solving
• Optimism, engine of resilience, believing in the hope for a better future
  • Separate what you can control, accepting what you can’t
  • Seeing stressors as challenges, not threats
• Self efficacy, self mastery
  • Knowing your strengths or talents
  • “I can” attitude
• Connection
  • Attachment styles
  • Relationships, having someone(s) to rely on
  • Spirituality, attached to something larger than yourself
• Positive institutions
  • Family (choice / origin), community, workplace

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