Resilience
Posted: March 31, 2022
Resilience is the ability to bounce back and grow from negative emotional experiences and by flexible adaptation to the changing demands of stressful experiences
Variables that contribute to resilience
- Biology
- Self awareness
- Tracking your emotions, thoughts, reactions
- Awareness of body
- Knowing your strengths, correcting for weaknesses
- Self regulation
- Changing thoughts, emotions, and reactions
- Changing physical responses (time outs)
- Goal setting
- Mental agility, look at things from multiple perspectives
- Perspective taking
- Problem solving
- Optimism, engine of resilience, believing in the hope for a better future
- Separate what you can control, accepting what you can’t
- Seeing stressors as challenges, not threats
- Self efficacy, self mastery
- Knowing your strengths or talents
- “I can” attitude
- Connection
- Attachment styles
- Relationships, having someone(s) to rely on
- Spirituality, attached to something larger than yourself
- Positive institutions
- Family (choice / origin), community, workplace
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