Sex Tools
Posted: March 10, 2026
Some tools to support physical intimacy.
- Is this ok? Six Principles of Sexual Health
- Dead bedrooms or mismatch in satisfaction: Libido Mismatch
A different way to think of sex:
To see what you may be into:
Also:
From Gottman’s “The Science of Trust”, p. 198: “Bids for connections are organized here in a bid hierarchy, showing how much we’re asking for in terms of cognitive or emotional effort from our partner (from the smallest to the largest):
1. A bid for attention
2. Simple requests (e.g., “while you’re up, can you get me the butter”)
3. A bid for help, teamwork, or coordination (e.g., help with an errand)
4. A bid for partner’s interest or active excitement
5. Questions or requests for information
6. A bid for conversation
7. A bid for just venting
8. Sharing events of the day
9. Stress reduction
10. Problem solving
11. Humor, laughter
12. Affection
13. Playfulness
14. Adventure
15. Exploration
16. Learning something together
17. Intimate conversation
18. Emotional support
19. Understanding, compassion, empathy
20. Sexual intimacy”