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Miracle Question

This exercise comes from an approach called Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT for those in a rush). The intent is to help people explore their own goals, identify challenges, identify personal feelings, and begin to work on a blueprint for treatment.

Because we are not doing this face to face there are some adaptations, should still be helpful.


  • Imagine that tonight while you sleep your fairy god parent finally shows up and takes their first shift. They wave their wand and *POOF*, all your problems are solved. ¬†When you wake up tomorrow morning, how will you start discovering that this miracle happened?
  • As you go through your first day after the miracle, what is it like? What happens? What is different? Who is there? What do you do with your day?
  • That was a lot of questions. Take notice of how you feel when exploring this miracle day. What emotions do you feel? How does your body feel?
  • Imagine that this overnight miracle did not happen just overnight, but gradually over the next 6 months to 5 years. What changes would come first? What steps would be easiest to take first?

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