LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy
Love Let Out is a telehealth therapy practice offering LGBTQIA+ affirming individual therapy to clients in Texas, Oregon, and Washington. Our clinicians are insiders to the communities we serve, not observers of them. What makes us weird makes us wonderful, not wrong.
Why is finding an affirming therapist so hard?
Because most directories say LGBTQ friendly and mean will not be openly hostile. That is a floor, not a qualification, and you can feel the difference within one session.
America still runs on a staunchly heteronormative, cisgender default with an attitude, and everybody has an opinion. Do you ever feel like too many people are far too interested in your genitals and what you are or are not doing with them?
Sometimes it seems like being out and open about who you are would be harder than continuing to hide, denying how you feel, and half convincing yourself that something must be wrong with you. Therapy is supposed to be the one room where you do not have to manage anyone. We have watched friends spend their first few sessions teaching very experienced counselors the vocabulary of their lives. You deserve better than that.
What is LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy?
LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy treats your identity as a fact of your life, not a problem to be explained or a phase to be assessed. The work is whatever brought you in, with a therapist who already speaks the language your life is lived in.
At Love Let Out, affirming means native fluency, not learned tolerance. Your time and money are valuable, and you will not spend either of them catching us up on the vocabulary, current issues, or social conversations that come with your sexuality, gender, relationship dynamics, or anything else.
What does LGBTQIA+ therapy help with?
We help with coming out, gender identity and expression, internalized homophobia, religious abuse, family estrangement, chosen family, and the ordinary hard parts of being a person that have nothing to do with being queer. Being LGBTQIA+ does not have to be the topic of therapy for affirming care to matter. These are some of the concerns we see most often.
Coming out and figuring out your SOGIE
Life can get hard, especially when the way you live has its own flag. Do we even know which flag to pick up? Is SOGIE the new LGBTQIA+? Can you be enby and bisexual, or is that just pansexual? How do some lesbians get a gold star, and what is a TERF?
There is a lot to figure out, especially if you are only just beginning to embrace your truth. Now there is Grindr, Tinder, OkCupid, Feeld, and Taimi, and are we not supposed to have our own bar or something? Trying to love yourself is hard enough without also having to map exactly who you are and how you love. We will support you as you work through your own sexual orientation and gender identity expression and figure out how, when, and whether to come out.
Internalized homophobia
One of the most horrendous things a person can be convinced to do is hate themselves. The double think of exploring who you are while loathing what you find can spiral into real self-destruction. You cannot control other people or how the world responds to you, but you can work through how you feel and learn to respond better to yourself. Through our work together, you can come to accept and love who you are, wherever you land in the LGBTQIA+ world.
Religious abuse
Some faiths and individual churches have become genuinely affirming, but the general mood of many faiths at large remains more than discouraging. Serving as a youth pastor under a junior high school teacher turned mentor, Cody saw firsthand the insidious damage faith communities can sow into people. Whether you need to process the pain, reestablish your faith, or explore a new path entirely, we treat religious trauma as a full specialty, including affirming care for people on secular, pagan, and alternative faith paths.
Families of origin and families of choice
Our families are supposed to love us unconditionally, but that is not always the case. Some of us are lucky enough to have families that accept us no matter what. Others are outcast, ostracized, or disowned for being who we truly are. Whether you are struggling with the family you grew up in or building the family you choose, we can support you as you care for the roots that keep you grounded.
Many of our clients also live at more than one intersection, and we built the practice for exactly that. Some are queer and practicing polyamory or exploring the wider ethical non-monogamy spectrum. Some are into kink and want a therapist who will not flinch or fixate. Some are neurodivergent and tired of masking in one more room. You do not have to pick a single identity at the door.
Who provides LGBTQIA+ therapy at Love Let Out?
Therapy at Love Let Out is provided by our team of affirming clinicians, led by founder Cody Glover, LPC-S in Texas and Oregon and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Washington. Every session is online therapy by secure video, so you can meet with us from anywhere in your state.
Our full team sees clients in Texas. In Oregon and Washington, you will work with Cody directly. Over the years, our team has worked with the Montrose Center in Houston, other LGBT resource centers, youth struggling with their identity, and advocacy groups for people considered different, and we have since branched into supporting communities in Oregon and Washington.
We are also honest about scope. We simply cannot know exactly what you need until we work together, and if your primary concern sits outside our lane, we will say so and help you find the right person.
Frequently asked questions
Is Love Let Out an LGBTQIA+ affirming practice?
Yes. Love Let Out is a specialty telehealth therapy practice founded to serve LGBTQIA+, non-monogamous, kink, neurodivergent, and religious trauma survivor communities. Affirming care is the foundation of the practice, not an add-on.
What states does Love Let Out serve?
We provide telehealth therapy in Texas, Oregon, and Washington. Our full clinical team serves Texas, and founder Cody Glover sees clients in Oregon and Washington.
Do I need to be sure about my identity to start therapy?
No. Questioning, exploring, and not knowing yet are all valid places to begin. Affirming therapy means we follow your understanding of yourself rather than assigning you a label or a timeline.
Are sessions in person or online?
All sessions are online. Love Let Out is a fully telehealth practice with no physical offices, so you meet with your therapist by secure video from anywhere in Texas, Oregon, or Washington.
Do you offer LGBTQIA+ group therapy?
We offer group therapy, though no groups are currently running. If you would like to join the interest list for upcoming groups, mention it when you request your free consultation and we will keep you posted.
If you have made it this far, you have at least decided you may need some support, and we are glad you did. Request a free consultation and let's see if we're a good fit. No pressure, no pitch, just a real conversation.