Posted: July 12, 2021
There you are, sliding into a disaster like a car desperately trying to stop in the rain. The conversation is veering sharply into oncoming conflict and you’re trying to brace for impact. Just like in moments when your body believes you’re about to get into...
Posted: June 22, 2021
Hey fellow human who also probably has a small subset of humans they love having in their lives… don’t you also hate them sometimes? What’s that about? A favorite couple of mine started their journey of love while both in high school, because it would...
Posted: June 1, 2021
Very likely you are already some kind of non-monogamous , especially if you found yourself here. There are many flavors to choose from with varying degrees of types of intimacy . Serial Monogamy Strictly speaking, monogamy is having only one romantic / sexual partner… ever...
Posted: May 24, 2021
In this post we talked briefly about not necessarily breaking up, but changing how a relationship looks . The relationship escalator is the societal belief that romantic relationships must continually be working towards new milestones of commitment or they are failing. Some of us prefer...
Posted: May 3, 2021
Tropes are tropes and clichés are clichés for a reason. When I facilitated poly discussion groups and moderated poly communities I would joke that the answer that will get everybody out of here in 15 minutes is, “h ave you tried clear, open, honest communication...
Posted: April 26, 2021
There’s an old joke, WASPs have lives, the rest of us have ‘lifestyles’. While I personally don’t love that mindset, I can not change how our society uses their words. If your “lifestyle” has a flag, you’ve likely had one of the most universal questions...