Posted: October 11, 2022
Defining and Managing New Relationship Energy (NRE) Butterflies in your stomach and your head in the clouds - two ways that brand new relationships make us feel. We're feeling great about ourselves, falling for someone amazing, and then BAM. We realize that we're in a...
Posted: October 10, 2022
Conflict Management Styles I will ask you to take this assessment to identify which of the 5 conflict management styles you work with the most and which you work with the least. Each one has pros and cons, we will work towards taking advantage of...
Posted: October 10, 2022
Compassionate Chair Work An effective way to deal with a low amount of self-compassion is by finding a way to relate differently to the inner critical voice. This works best by arranging a triangle of chairs around yourself when possible. Instructions Think of something that...
Posted: October 10, 2022
A core part of accepting and embracing each other is uncovering and understanding the meaning of each person’s position in conflict, finding out what things mean to each person. Anything worth fighting about has a meaning or value underneath. Sometimes, conflicts are calls to be...
Posted: October 10, 2022
Choosing One Gridlocked Issue and One Solvable Issue Remember: All couples have perpetual problems . The BIG, HEAVY ISSUES in their relationship that keep causing them a lot of pain and hurt are very likely to be GRIDLOCKED PERPETUAL ISSUES. When couples are gridlocked on...
Posted: October 10, 2022
Changing Emotional Responses Emotions are powerful survival skills so ingrained in the brain they are unavoidable. When something happens or is noticed, the brain starts creating the chemicals in ~40 to 100 milliseconds and starts thinking about the thing in ~250 to 500 milliseconds. We...