Posted: March 29, 2022
Introduced by the Gottman Institute, sometimes in relationships we make agreements we honestly shouldn’t for a variety of reasons. Here is a way to test as you consider the agreement if it is one you can allow for yourself. Instructions First, think of something that…
Posted: March 29, 2022
Introduced by the Gottman Institute, this exercise will help you make your conversations deeper and more personal, drawing people towards you. These skills are also helpful in supporting the Stress Reducing Conversation or Active Constructive Responses. Instructions Try opening up an intimate conversation with…
Posted: February 22, 2022
Nobody makes it through life without some bumps, unfortunately for some the scars run deep, and the past isn’t just the past. It can be hard to watch the ones we love go through these hard times, can be difficult to manage ourselves, and can…
Posted: February 22, 2022
“Givers must set boundaries because takers have none” Instructions Identify your values. Is this about preserving your personal space? Do you want to make sure your emotions are not dismissed? The value determined needs to be something that’s important to you; you need to be…
Posted: February 22, 2022
The first 3 minutes of a conversation can predict how the whole conversation will go, it is also an opportunity to send a bid for kindness. The formula for a gentle start up for a conversation is: I feel [emotion] when [situation, not other person]…
Posted: February 22, 2022
The Gottman Institute calls it a Diffuse Physiological Arousal (DPA) state that a person goes into when they have started to emotionally flood and they are starting to shut down emotionally and physically. We’ll just call it flooding. When flooded, we might experience a racing…